Friday, May 8, 2009

What is FFN?

What is Friday Fun Night?
An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life...Her husband also,
and he praises her, saying:
“Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all.”
-- Prov 31:10-12, 29

Many years ago I started "Friday Fun Nights" (FFN) in our house. These were basically "date nights" for my husband and I - but we stayed home.
We did not have babysitters or the money to go out so we would sit together and talk about everything and anything. I would make up some munchie-snacks, turn on some music and the evening would go by so quickly. No worry about getting home for babysitters, no bill, no drunk drivers on the roads, no indigestion.
This is quite unconventional in today's world but we love them and I really want to share them with you.
Don't fall into the self-entitlement "I work hard all week, he should take me out!" trap. That is worldly and the Proverbs 31 woman has no right to any of it. It's time to take a stand for our men. They are not equipped with estrogen and do not understand us anymore than the Father allows them (each is different).
There is waaaaaaay too much divorce within our faith and the time is now to
claim your man!
Give him a reason to come home on Friday nights.
Look good, smell good, and make him feel good.
Doesn't that sound a lot better than dwelling on your rights and needs. All you need the Father has already given to you anyway, you just need to see it. You may be working hard all day at home but at least you're home. He's out there trying to fend off the devil at every turn, every cute little Jezebel that flirts with him, and every co-worker that nags him for being a non-conformist. Give the guy a break!
You are made to complete him, not compete with him.
Anyways, I knew I could make a good time and I could do it better and cheaper.
I have read that men don't want a 50s-style women anymore. I'm pretty sure these articles are written by feminist, superMoms who want to glorify the fact that they work and still have time to attend their child's soccer game. I have met no husbands in our circle of friends who do not like dinner on the table when they get home and appreciate the sacrifices their wives make by putting the home and children ahead of their own selfish desires for recognition.
FFN can be as simple or as complicated as you want. It will take a little planning so that you have items on-hand and prepped so all you have to do is set them out on the table. If you are not the world's greatest cook (keep coming to my Cooking Blog and we'll work on that), then take it easy and use more ready made food. Just try to remember this is a date not a Sushi Bar.
You are to spend time gazing at your husband, giving him your FULL attention.
This may take a few weeks to work because at the same time you need to train your children that this is Mommy and Daddy's time. Feed your children at 4 and let them watch a movie or make it their special time of play together. Give them the option of getting along or going to bed, there are no alternatives. What kids need most are strong marriages and this will definitely work toward that. In warm weather we sit on the deck and watch the children play in the yard. There is no reason to seclude them unless they demand your attention away from your husband. Actually the kids grow to appreciate FFN as much as we do. They usually have frozen pizza and get to stay up late as long as they're behaving. It really is all GOOD once you get the hang of it.
The Bible gives us clear priorities in our relationships:
1. God
2. Spouse
3. Children
You cannot raise children well if your marriage is falling apart, and you cannot have a strong marriage if your relationship with God is falling apart.
It's all about priorities.
I can't stress enough how easy and worthwhile this is and I hope you will give it a try.
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